Some parents or teachers can shy away from giving praise to their children. They may worry that praise can inflate a child’s ego and result in an individual who struggles to make friends and has negative character traits. Is this really the case?
It’s true that overly praising a child, or giving praise in an incorrect way, can certainly have a negative impact. However failing to provide appropriate praise in the right way can have an even more detrimental impact. So what are the benefits to praising children? Let’s take a quick look.
Why All Children Need Praise
Praise can motivate a child, make them more confident and help them to tackle future challenges and obstacles with determination. In fact researchers have noted that toddlers who received positive praise for independently trying to overcome a challenge or task, grew up to be youngsters who were more likely to tackle and persist with future challenges.
What Type Of Praise Do Children Need?
It is clear that all children need praise, however knowing how to correctly give praise is the key to success. Below are a few important factors to keep in mind when praising children:
- Don’t praise in generalities – praise the child for something specific.
- Do not over praise achievements which the child easily accomplishes.
- Praise should be specific to the child, rather than comparing them to someone else.
- Praise should be focused towards encouraging the child to master new skills, rather than simply praising them for something they already love to do.
Be Wary Of Insincere Praise
Insincere praise can actually be damaging to a child. It can make them think that you are patronizing them or that you feel sorry for them in some way. For very young children this is not normally an issue, they tend to take praise at face value, however once a child matures a little they will quickly start to sense when praise is sincere and when it is not.
To make sure that your child does not find praise insincere you can take a few simple steps as outlined below.
- Avoid praise that is over-the-top in delivery.
- Do not praise the child for every small thing they accomplish.
- Always say exactly what you are praising the child for and make sure they understand why they are being praised.
It seems that children are growing up faster and faster these days, if only we could keep them small forever! Those early years play a vital role in the type of person a child will grow up to become. Giving praise can have a significantly positive impact on every child, the secret is knowing how and when to give praise.
By following the advice and tips above we are sure that you will be well on the way to giving children the praise that they deserve. After all, every child needs praise, surely it’s our job to make sure they receive it.